Communication

Let us have a look at talking to one another. People generally converse in an exchange of words. People at most times believe that talking is the major way of speaking with each other. It is a form of conversing, but not the only thing that is talking. “One cannot not communicate,” said the Austrian-American psychologist and philosopher Paul Watzlawick. What does this really mean is what pops into the heads of most people I presume? Let us look at it in a very simple and pragmatic way. Let us presume I tell you that today is a beautiful day and the weather is lovely outside. Well at that presumed point in time, it is raining outside. As the message hits you, your brain starts working and let us just say that your Eyebrow goes up just a notch. You may think that this person is a bit of his rocker, because well it is raining outside and for a casual assumption, most people would say that the weather is blah. J Blah meaning it being of a nature that does not make us feel that good and keeps us from sitting in the sun. Now when your Eyebrow moved up just a notch, my subconscious noticed that and I could have gone into a bit on explaining myself.

Now this simple demonstration just shows what Mr. Watzlawick was trying to tell us. We cannot communicate. Every move, every gesture and almost anything we do is a form of expression. There is no form of anti-communication and even avoiding not communicating is a form of communication. You have to do something to not communicate with other people. SO avoidance is a way of showing your not ready to communicate into the open.

What does this mean when we open our mouths to let words and thoughts come out? Does this mean that we try to tell a story or does this mean we are just showing a small portion of what we feel? Does this mean that anything we do should carefully be watched? Well in my opinion, no. We should live our life as pure human beings. We should live our life as special human beings. Our communication should be respectful, even in the hardest times. The hardest times, being those times where we need to show others the respect that they deserve. Hardest times meaning those times that are a trial for us. Fights, strong discussions outside of our comfort zone, Meetings that come at times where we are not prepared. Dates that make us insecure, Times of love, when you look into the persons eyes and are ready to see the future. Conversations where you make promises. These are all just a few of the times where we should speak out of respect. In my opinion anytime, we are alive. Because we should be respectful with ourselves the same way, we should be respectful to others. Because we have to live respect with ourselves before we are able to live it with others.

See showing communication that enjoys pureness in the kindest form is in my opinion something we should master. Showing others that what we communicate is open, direct (not hurtful) and pure is something that usually comes back to us. The way you say and do things usually comes back the same you way you gave it. If we just remember, what Mr. Watzlawick said may just help us in solving issues we have with ourselves and if we solve theses issues with ourselves, we usually solve issues with others.

What goes around comes around.