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MaximumView | Professional Coaching Heidelberg

MaximumView | Professional Coaching Heidelberg

Love

Even though some may see what calls itself love, most do not see what it really means. Does a person need to love, to hold to it or does a person love to hold it? Love is a distinguished thought in the soul of anything that cares for something. Love is the thought that bares the soul in a position to caress someone. Love is the savior of a generation in turmoil.

If you look into the thought behind this word, we shall see the definition first. This taken from Wikipedia : Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.^[1] Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another".^[2] Love may describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection. Now look at the definition stated here. DO you see anything in the words written? Do you prosper in the thought of a self-indulgence of the love of yourself?

Caring and caressing for anyone and everyone is the path choosing to form inside of everyone. Once we open ourselves up to the thought, of anyone, being able to receive love in the utmost form, then we find ourselves in the utmost form. Love is the caring for anyone and everything in our path, day in and day out. Love is the pleasure of finding caring day in and day out. Take for instance a person standing in line at the grocery store. Behind this person stands an older women with her groceries. She stands there and waits to be able to put her groceries on the counter. As you turn around silently and look at this old woman, what do you do? Do you take the groceries out of her basket and help her, or do you go on with your day? Do you also wonder why nobody helps you in a situation when you need help? Would it have been such a pain to put the groceries on the belt? Think about it. If you would have put the groceries on the belt, do you think that the universe gives you something back in return? I do. I believe that what you get back is pure gratefulness. Pure feeling.  That feeling of being able to go into a state of pure love. You have to be grateful and truthful to be able to feel love.

Some people think that love is a four-letter word. I used to. Love used to be a word with four letters. It used to be placed in sentences and expressed in the utmost area, of showing it to another person. What about the love you show to the other persons in your life? Why are most afraid, to see the love you can give them? It does not hurt, to give love in its purest form, to everyone in your area of influence. Yeah off course some may say, “Well I have been hurt before!” and I will say that you got over it. After you got over it, you gave out the purest love to the next person you wanted to love. Give it to everyone and you shall receive it.  Love is like a child, That longs for everything it can come by, Shakespeare said. Think about it?

Never should we forget what love really is. Love is the utmost and certainly, the greatest gift anyone can give us. If we care for it, it shall return itself in the form of a pureness we have never seen. Trust, believe and hold on to what you see in your heart. Do not be scared, endangered or purely subdued. Nothing changes your feeling of love, but yourself. None can take it away from you, if you believe in it to be true. Give it to everyone no matter how much it may not come back to you. Love is self-serving. Love is like needing food. Sometimes you cannot get enough of it. 

Communication

Let us have a look at talking to one another. People generally converse in an exchange of words. People at most times believe that talking is the major way of speaking with each other. It is a form of conversing, but not the only thing that is talking. “One cannot not communicate,” said the Austrian-American psychologist and philosopher Paul Watzlawick. What does this really mean is what pops into the heads of most people I presume? Let us look at it in a very simple and pragmatic way. Let us presume I tell you that today is a beautiful day and the weather is lovely outside. Well at that presumed point in time, it is raining outside. As the message hits you, your brain starts working and let us just say that your Eyebrow goes up just a notch. You may think that this person is a bit of his rocker, because well it is raining outside and for a casual assumption, most people would say that the weather is blah. J Blah meaning it being of a nature that does not make us feel that good and keeps us from sitting in the sun. Now when your Eyebrow moved up just a notch, my subconscious noticed that and I could have gone into a bit on explaining myself.

Now this simple demonstration just shows what Mr. Watzlawick was trying to tell us. We cannot communicate. Every move, every gesture and almost anything we do is a form of expression. There is no form of anti-communication and even avoiding not communicating is a form of communication. You have to do something to not communicate with other people. SO avoidance is a way of showing your not ready to communicate into the open.

What does this mean when we open our mouths to let words and thoughts come out? Does this mean that we try to tell a story or does this mean we are just showing a small portion of what we feel? Does this mean that anything we do should carefully be watched? Well in my opinion, no. We should live our life as pure human beings. We should live our life as special human beings. Our communication should be respectful, even in the hardest times. The hardest times, being those times where we need to show others the respect that they deserve. Hardest times meaning those times that are a trial for us. Fights, strong discussions outside of our comfort zone, Meetings that come at times where we are not prepared. Dates that make us insecure, Times of love, when you look into the persons eyes and are ready to see the future. Conversations where you make promises. These are all just a few of the times where we should speak out of respect. In my opinion anytime, we are alive. Because we should be respectful with ourselves the same way, we should be respectful to others. Because we have to live respect with ourselves before we are able to live it with others.

See showing communication that enjoys pureness in the kindest form is in my opinion something we should master. Showing others that what we communicate is open, direct (not hurtful) and pure is something that usually comes back to us. The way you say and do things usually comes back the same you way you gave it. If we just remember, what Mr. Watzlawick said may just help us in solving issues we have with ourselves and if we solve theses issues with ourselves, we usually solve issues with others.

What goes around comes around. 

Success

Being scared of what everyone calls success, is that what holds us back on the subject of being able to achieve what we want. At least that is what everyone I have met in the last couple of weeks has shown me. Now we see what we want and question it to see if it is right for us. We look at wanting riches and say that they are not for us. Why? Because we are in debt right now? Because we have so much debt, that we do not see the start of a new situation? Well take another guess on a subject that concerns every human being on this planet. Whether this person is young or old. (Old being the perspective a person sees himself in. J)

Success coming in the 1530s, "result, outcome," from L. successus "an advance, succession, happy outcome”. Now when you see this definition of a word that some are scared of, you may see that it is in use daily. It is in use every time you wake up on time, have a perfect shave, get to work on time or just plainly find a good place to eat and the food tastes great. Now these are simple versions of success you might say. Well, what´s with the success in life? In my point of view, I believe that there is a simple recipe to this Question. If you cannot see success in the small things, how are you going to be able to forge your success in the large things? Success is all around us and it shines brightly straight in everyone’s face. Success is the happy outcome that you make it.

Success is trainable even if you are scared of it. Now why do I keep saying scared of it? That is a proper and plausible Question. It is because most of the people are. Now I might be picking a bone with you and you could be saying that I am crazy. Why do you not see the small success then? Why is it always harder reaching the goals you set for yourself, than getting a bad check in the mail? In my experience, this is also simple. Because we do not trust ourselves in deserving our success. Oh, it is not that we grew on this thought. Somewhere down the line we where told that we needed to work hard to be a success. Therefore, we started and worked our butts off in getting the job that we wanted. We then work from morning to night trying to get the success that we deserve. It still does not come around. It still does not manifest itself into our lives. It stays hidden in the backset of your mind, where it does not belong. It keeps peeking out and try’s to find the way out, but we push it down every time we see it, because we are scared of the failure that does come on us if it does not work out. Our Plan I mean. The plan we have made for success. Now this some may say is stupid. So why are these people not as successful as they want to be?   

It is all in the mind. It is all in the soul. It is all in your believe. Success comes to the ones that jump at the action of fear and do it anyways. Success comes to the ones that trust in the certain path of trust they need to fulfill everything they have in the souls of the hearts they carry. Success is an institution in oneself and not in anyone else. Success is the certainty that you will win no matter what is thrown against you. Success is everything failure is not.

Intuition

Intuition or also called the gut feeling. Sometimes it is also called a hunch. Following up on a gut feeling tells the truth, more than knowing the truth and trying to figure out if it is true. Checking on what you believe in is what many of a people do if they do not trust in themselves. Trusting in you is something we should do at least 90 % of a time if we really want to grow. Offcourse following up on Intuition can be greatly helpful when you try to find out what the bigger picture looks like. It does not mean to distrust ourselves when we check up on a hunch.

Let´s look at the hunch in a different perspective. We get a hunch and the first thing that might just happen, is the point of saying to ourselves that we can not do it. Then we ask ourselves why. Then we ask ourselves why not. Then we find a means of doing it. Then we find a reason for not doing it and the cycle goes on and on and on. This is not a productive state to reside in. My personal view and in my experience has shown that there is a simpler way of doing it. As Richard Branson lovely book title states,” Screw it just do it!” Now there is a point that he mentions in his book and it is a point that we should highly consider. Step 1: Get a Idea, Step2 : Grasp the Idea, Step 3: Check up on the Idea, Step 4 : Get into action, Step 5: Check up on the Idea again, Step 6 : If it does not work, try something else until it works. Now look at this brilliant concept. See the difference in the ways of thinking ?

Intuition is something that feels right. It is something that we learn over time and something that we figure out over time. It can be set to be feared and mistrusted over time. A lovely and powerful feeling gets the action off being feared. Think about that. Why should you not your innermost action of truth ? In my experience it is because we where taught to not trust hunches most of the time. Why? Because we where taught to see the bigger picture with glasses. Just like when you wake up after falling in love with a person and notice after 6 months that you lied to yourselves just to keep the same glasses on, eventhough you knew it was not right. If you would have followed up on the hunch you got, you might have just met the person who really likes you and not the person who you thought you liked. A hunch can get you pretty far, HMMM !

Now these are just short and bunched perspectives that I have. Is my perspective right for everyone ? Well if it feels right to you, thin it might just be right. If it does not feel right to you , then it might just not be right. Whatever you are doing though,”You are following up on a Hunch.”  You are following up on Intuition.

Can we relearn Intuition again ? Yes with the right training and believes we can trust ourselves again.

Faith is a passionate intuition.                                                          

William Wordsworth

Change of mind To be back on top, people sometimes commute to a psychologist to ease there heavy heart. Often it is on but a current situation that does not let us be on top. It is the feeling that often overpowers us to be on top of the situation. What does this feeling nevertheless try to tell us? Does it tell us that we have just made a mistake? Does it tell us we should change? Does it tell us we should wake up? As soon as we have identified what has taken us so down, the first step is already done, to go in the right direction. The idea internally sets so much free that we get back our energy. The idea sets of happiness hormones in us that we had not recognized when we were sad A lightness occurs which makes us think and help us think clearly again. The sun goes up. People around us take see us differently again. You smile at once again. This is what we feel. This is what we believe. This is what we perceive. Is that really what happened? Are we not the trigger for the immediate change? We look at ourselves in the mirror and see ourselves completely different. We smile at once. We do not believe our eyes or trust what we see. We where sad just seconds before, minutes or even hours. We arrived recently at a hopeless point, where we thought, that smile would never come. Therefore, it goes for many every day. To use those seconds and look into the mirror, and to remember who we really are is more valuable than any gold coin. More valuable than any second that we are. Charlie Chaplin had once said: A day without laughter is a day wasted. How true! Thank you Charlie

Change of mind

To be back on top, people sometimes commute to a psychologist to ease there heavy heart. Often it is on but a current situation that does not let us be on top. It is the feeling that often overpowers us to be on top of the situation. What does this feeling nevertheless try to tell us? Does it tell us that we have just made a mistake? Does it tell us we should change? Does it tell us we should wake up?

As soon as we have identified what has taken us so down, the first step is already done, to go in the right direction. The idea internally sets so much free that we get back our energy. The idea sets of happiness hormones in us that we had not recognized when we were sad A lightness occurs which makes us think and help us think clearly again.

The sun goes up. People around us take see us differently again. You smile at once again. This is what we feel. This is what we believe. This is what we perceive. Is that really what happened? Are we not the trigger for the immediate change?

We look at ourselves in the mirror and see ourselves completely different. We smile at once. We do not believe our eyes or trust what we see. We where sad just seconds before, minutes or even hours. We arrived recently at a hopeless point, where we thought, that smile would never come. Therefore, it goes for many every day. To use those seconds and look into the mirror, and to remember who we really are is more valuable than any gold coin. More valuable than any second that we are. 

Charlie Chaplin had once said: A day without laughter is a day wasted.

How true! Thank you Charlie